When was the last time you experienced a fierce throb burn in your loins and travel through your body like electricity?
When did you last experience intense desire and passion consume you like wildfire?
If you’re experiencing sexual repression your answer will probably be “once in a blue moon,” or perhaps even “NEVER.” Unfortunately this may mean that you suffer from a host of physical and emotional problems such as fatigue, chronic tension, low self-esteem, irritability, aggression and insomnia.
Fortunately, you are not alone. Many people in our society live with overt and unabashed sexual repression. In fact, if you grew up in a highly conservative and/or religious environment, chances are that you possess some warped beliefs and ideals about sex and sexuality. If you had a similar upbringing to me you would have been taught “to wear modest clothing under all circumstances,” (in my case it was long skirts past the knees) “to ONLY have sex when you get married because otherwise you’ll be a fornicator,” “to protect your ‘private parts’,” and “*to not fiddle with your bits because it causes blindness” (*masturbation myths may vary). Really, there are dozens of other bizarre teachings out there about sexuality that I haven’t mentioned here. These teachings can be subtle and quiet, or loud and blatant.
Examining Your Erotic Wound
Before we get to the meaty part about how to deal with your sexual repression, it’s really important that you examine the source of your discomfort with all things s-e-x.
Where did your erotic wound – that part of you which is innately sexual – begin? At what point in your life did you start becoming uncomfortable with your body and its urges?
For most of us, our erotic wounds began in early childhood. Stop now and think about your parent’s approach to sexuality. What faint glances, expressions and tones can you remember your parents using when they were met with displays of eroticism? How comfortable versus uncomfortable where they with the carnal side of life?
The reality is that most of us received a poor education about sex, and many of us were even shamed, punished or rejected as children whenever we touched our genitals or played “doctor” with other kids. Unfortunately the reactions we had from our parents towards sensuality in our earlier life mold the reactions we have towards sex in our current lives.
Examples of sexual repression in your family may include:
- Discomfort with any form of nudity
- Discomfort when sex scenes appear on the TV or in movies
- Shaming sexual expression (e.g. “Don’t be a dirty girl, take your hands out of your pants”)
- Labeling sex “dirty,” “bad” and/or “wrong”
- Secrecy surrounding sex and sexuality in the family
- Rigid gender roles
- Intolerance towards any form of sexual expression
As a baby lying on your change table, you were never sexually repressed. This wound has been inherited by you, but you DON’T have to let it control your life.
Other reasons for the erotic wound include:
- Low self-esteem
- Body insecurity
- Having been sexually abused
Note: If you were raped or sexually abused I recommend that you seek out psychiatric guidance if you haven’t already before applying the advice in this article. This is a vital step in your process of healing and regeneration.
7 Things You Can Do to Heal Sexual Repression
First of all, take this journey slowly and steadily. Remember that you are the master of this ship – no one else is. Don’t jump to extremes and buy a bondage suit straight away (unless you feel ready). On the other hand, don’t leave this article resolving to do nothing for that would be even worse.
Also, none of these activities are compulsory: you are free to pick and choose as you wish.
1. Record your experiences in a journal or private diary.
Writing will help you to verbalize and process your sexual healing, as well as your beliefs and hidden feelings about sex in general. You may like to start off your journey with this activity and return to it every time you have a new experience.
2. Explore self-pleasure.
Self-pleasure (or “masturbation”) elicits feelings of shame, guilt and embarrassment within us. Thanks to religious thought, self-pleasure has been labelled as evil, wrong, or even dangerous (“Every time you masturbate, God kills a kitten”), not to mention the fact that it is regarded as a “sin” that will land you straight in Satan’s lap. You may have even been punished as a child for fiddling with your male/female parts … all of these experiences combined don’t create a favorable image of self-pleasure in our minds. Unsurprisingly, these feelings and beliefs cause us to have a negative knee-jerk reaction every time we do “venture into the wilderness” because they are so deeply ingrained into us.
If you’d like to explore the philosophical/historical reasons behind demonizing self-pleasure, I recommend reading “Solitary Sex: A Cultural History of Masturbation.” Otherwise, I’d encourage you to have a long hard think about self-pleasure and why exactly it feels so “bad” or “wrong” to you. You may like to record your thoughts in a private journal as you do this.
When you feel ready, you may like to explore the “anatomy” of self-pleasure and how to enjoy and benefit from the experience (if you like facts, read some benefits). Otherwise, explore some relevant books (like this one) and some relevant online stores (like this).
3. Learn to ENJOY sex.
Learn how to communicate your sexual desire.
If you have a partner, one of the most powerful ways to intensify your sex life is to discover what turns you on versus what is uncomfortable or annoying during sex. In order to communicate what arouses you, you need to pay attention to your body. Let sex become a moving form of meditation.Allow all of your thoughts to slip away as your awareness centers on the smells, tastes and tactile sensations of intercourse. Once you are aware of what is erotically stimulating to you, make sure you communicate that to your partner whether during sex, or in the aftermath. You may even like to show your partner where you like to be touched. Your partner will appreciate your assertiveness and confidence, and this will actually boost your sex appeal.
4. Allow yourself to feel desirable.
When we experience sexual repression it is common for us to feel undesirable, even ugly or unworthy. Thankfully this is a deception! You are as desirable as you make yourself regardless of your weight, or how many muscles you do or don’t have. Feeling desire for another is really about connecting to their essence. If you are in a relationship, you may like to start by making eye contact with your partner while making love. Focus on the passion in their eyes and the way they look at you. Allow this to sink in.
However, the most powerful way to feel desirable is to respect and accept who you are. Learning to love yourself is a wonderful place to begin accepting your sexual nature. Obviously, a part of loving yourself is practicing good hygiene, eating clean food, getting enough exercise, and sometimes even expressing yourself through the clothes you wear. Don’t be afraid to pamper yourself! Do whatever makes you feel sexy – mindfully of course!
5. (For women) try belly-dancing.
The undulating hip movements, the exotic music, the arabesque clothing … belly-dancing is a powerful way to reconnect with your femininity. As a woman who suffers from the Mother Wound, I initially cringed at the thought of trying out belly-dancing. “I’m not a dancer,” I first thought, “and besides, I’ll look ridiculous.” The truth is that belly-dancing was threatening to me because I had denied my femininity for so long, so I closed myself off to it with skepticism and negative self-belief. Be wary of this. While belly-dancing may not be for you, I recommend trying it out at least once (seriously) if you are a female.
The act itself of rotating the hips allows us to tap into our primal kundalini energy (which is by nature sexual). You may find that after one single session of belly-dancing you feel much more connected to your body. You’ll probably even find it to be a great workout, with the bonus of feeling like a goddess!
6. Express your sexuality through art.
We are all artists at heart, and art is ironically an expression of primal (or sexual) energy. We all want to create something, whether that is a child through sexual intercourse, or a painting through deep passion and inspiration.
There are many forms of art. I encourage you to explore a type of art that you’ve never tried before – but one that “attracts” you. How can you express your sexuality through painting, sculpting, drawing, writing, dancing or singing? It’s simple: focus on the untapped sexual energy within you and learn to channel it through what you do. You may even be overwhelmed by how much erotic force you have repressed inside. Just make sure that you take regular breaks, eat, drink and sleep. Sexuality can be a ferocious force when finally embraced.
7. Watch, read, go to …
If you’ve always had an interest in strip clubs … go! Allow the dirty and taboo element of such places to be explored consciously and thoughtfully. If you shy away from sex-filled dramas and movies, open yourself up to watching them. If you think you may enjoy erotic stories, experiment with reading a few. Slowly push the boundaries of your sexual experience and reflect on the impact they have on your life.
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By Mike Sygula,
I was so lucky to meet Derrick Broze from The Conscious Resistance Network at Elevation Tour event In Barcelona lately. We both shared our ideas with the audience on how to raise consciousness and “be the change you wish to see”. My talk was more focused on the current situation with online censorship by giants like Google and Facebook, how this term “fake news” is being used to discredit any alternative perspectives and how activists are being currently censored online.
Most people don’t realize it, but behind the scences, many bloggers, YouTubers, and activists in alternative media community are currently being censored by the big corporations and governments. As someone who is close to this community, I have direct insight into this situation and I decided that it is the time to speak out and I will be appearing in more events disclosing some of this information. The video from the talk will be online in the next few weeks, make sure you subscribe to my social media channels to get the updates; Twitter, Minds.com, Instagram
It was also great to connect with Ryan Di Somma from Stand Up 911, who has been active in spreading the truth about 9/11 coverup over the last decade, make sure you follow him on Instagram
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We all have issues. And as unique as we all are from one another, it’s in our issues that this uniqueness tends to fade away. The characters and circumstances involved may differ from person to person, but at the core, pretty well everything you’re currently going through someone has gone through before.
While some of you may not like the sound of this, the proof of its truth lies in the existence and popularity of personal development. Whether or not Amazon has a monopoly over your book buying, we all know that your local bookstore has a seemingly endless number of shelves dedicated to doctors, psychiatrists, celebrities, and even average Joe’s like me sharing the solutions that they’ve discovered to the problems we all seem to be having.
The issue doesn’t lie in a lack of valuable resources, it instead lies in finding the one you need amidst the plethora that are available.
As someone who at this point has probably read too many personal development books, I’d like to help with your search when it comes to 5 of the most common problems that we tend to seek literary assistance for.
Problem #1: I Suck At Setting Goals
If there is one thing that most of us excel at in this world, it’s identifying what we want. We’re quick to list that we’d love that beach-ready body, that trip to Costa Rica, and that penthouse condo, but when it comes to laying out an action plan to make that dream into a reality we always seem to fall short.
While laziness is often the biggest barrier to doing much of what is necessary to accomplish your goals, it’s amazing how much less prevalent of a factor laziness can become when your goals are set properly. I learned this through one of the first best-sellers written by Tony Robbins Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!
While many of the references made within this book originally published in 1991 are quite dated, the core material is timeless, and that’s where the proper goal setting value is packed. I will admit however, that this book is far from a light read. It’s one of those books that not only asks, but actually requires you to regularly engage in exercises if you hope to get full value from it. As someone who took the time to do so, and now hides my copy from others as a result… I can confidently say that it’s more than worth it.
Problem #2: Why Am I Always In Such A Bad Mood/ So Moody?
You may have become numb to the side effects you once suffered from, but you know that your life is best described as an emotional roller coaster. For me, this was a big one and I’m eternally sorry to each of my ex-girlfriends for having to put up with it as much as they did.
But my moody days are now largely behind me, and that’s due in large part to what I learned and was reminded of in Neil Pasricha’s The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything=Have Everything.
This book not only helped me realize what was really at the core of my moodiness (SPOILER ALERT: ME), but also gave me a greater appreciation for all that my life has to offer. For those of you with concerns that this book is largely a “hippie-dippie happy fest”, I can assure you that it’s instead rooted in realism.
Problem #3: I Don’t Have Enough Time!
“I wouldn’t have any of the problems that I do if I just had more time to deal with them.” While you may not have ever actually said this statement aloud, I’m willing to bet you’ve thought something along the same lines of it at one point or another. We all have a million things to do and the 24 hours we’re given in each day to accomplish it is never enough (especially when you factor in all the time we have to spend sleeping, eating and travelling).
I once firmly believed that the solution to this conundrum was to multi-task. That was however, until the understandably controversial Kevin Trudeau put me in my place in the audio-series Your Wish is Your Command.
Within the teachings of this audio, Kevin completely picks apart the illusion of proficiency that is multitasking (among many other valuable -and some questionable -lessons), an understanding that completely reshaped my approach to my daily to do list. I do suggest taking much of what Kevin shares with a grain of salt, but taking the time to sift through his material is sure to provide you with the kick in the pants you need!
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Problem #4: I Can’t Stay Focused
So maybe you have your goals and attitude in check, but when it comes to zeroing in on one particular thing… you’re hopeless. This doesn’t even need to be in regard to grandiose goals or work-related tasks, it could even be an inability to stay focused when someone is talking to you.
I’m willing to bet that a decent chunk of you just went “ah shit” when I added in that extra metaphorical focus-busting wrench. But, thankfully the book Way of the Peaceful Warrior: A Book That Changes Lives by Dan Millman not only exists, but pompous title aside, actually works!
This book is masterful at not only helping to bring and keep you in the present moment, but also gives you a full appreciation for it, even when life is seemingly mundane.
Problem #5: I Have No Motivation
Okay, I can zero in like Obi-Wan but I feel like I have no reason to be doing what I know I want to be doing. While some of this may actually require some heartfelt reflection, I’m going to assume that you know what you want in life (or at least the solution in problem one helped you discover it) but just can’t get your mojo going to do it.
Motivation in particular is the one personal development sub-category that you’ll find thousands of resources for, but the one that stands out for me is The Tools: 5 Tools to Help You Find Courage, Creativity, and Willpower–and Inspire You to Live Life in Forward Motion.
At times, this book can be a bit too much like stepping into a psychiatrist’s office (says the writer who has admittedly never been in one), but it does so for a reason. I won’t spoil anything, but I will say that some of the motivational techniques that this book outlines can be tough to swallow, but their effectiveness depends on it.
Why Should I Listen To You?
- Amazingly, none of the above mentioned authors paid me to recommend their books
- As I mentioned before, I’ve likely read too many personal development books over the past 10 years
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Murphy’s Law states, “If anything can go wrong, it will.” Today’s world is unpredictable – there are threats of nuclear war, an impending zombie apocalypse from radiation and toxic chemicals, and the risk of being overrun by machines and artificial intelligence (AI). How in the world do we prepare for these extinction-level disasters? It’s easy – we do it the military way.
The unofficial military slogan says it all: Improvise, adapt, and overcome. These are the only words you need to know, and it’s sure to help you in the long run, in case the (incoming Resident Evil reference) “Umbrella Corporation” accidentally releases a T-virus. When facing challenges, we must be vigilant. By preparing how we get the upper hand on these events, we have a greater chance of conquering life as it comes.
- Improvise – Survival is all about using all that you currently have to its utmost. A stick may be just a stick to some, but for preppers it can serve multiple purposes: a cooking utensil, a harvesting tool, and even a weapon. Improvisation is essential, especially during disasters that affect large areas of land (nuclear war, etc.). Most people tend to buy things that they need instead of making what they need. This defeats the whole purpose of improvisation, because after the world ends, don’t think that there will be malls around to supply your food and your toilet paper. Creative people are good at improvising by nature, but it is a skill that can be learned as well. Familiarize yourself with multi-purpose items such as pocket knives, bandannas, duct tape, and paracord. Spending time on nature trips like mountain hikes or trails also helps broaden your knowledge on what to use when you have nothing. Check out our Survival.news website if you need more information on improvising during disasters. (Related: Survival weapons: Cheap and inconspicuous alternatives to massive guns)
- Adapt – Science has always emphasized adaptation as an important factor of survival. Adaptation is one facet of evolution, and through history, only those that managed to get used to their surroundings are the ones that still exist to date. Dinosaurs were wiped out because of their inability to cope with the changing climates, and it would go the same for us humans if we don’t prepare our bodies for the uncertainty of the future. Keeping fit and healthy helps with adaptation, because if you can’t do cardio, you won’t be able to run away from a brain-hungry zombie. Adaptation is also based on familiarization of a certain place: If you don’t know where to go during the day or where to hide at night, you won’t last 24 hours at all. Adapting to your environment is also a matter of mental conditioning. Believing you can jump helps a lot, especially when you’re already on the edge of a cliff. Keep a positive mindset and believe you can change, because in times of peril, change is always for the better.
- Overcome – May it be a problem, an opponent, or a negative emotion, having the ability to overcome anything is vital for preppers. Again, a positive mindset comes into play here, and having an optimistic outlook as compared to a pessimistic one helps in this case. If you are able to improvise with what you currently have, adapt to your environment, then surely you’ll be able to overcome anything that comes your way, may it be a zombie apocalypse or a worldwide AI domination. Thinking that you can win helps you win for real, and ultimate survival is only bestowed on those who have great mental capacities and exponential willpower.
Again: Improvise, adapt, and overcome. As early as now, keep yourself educated on ways of surviving when everything breaks down. Talk to people who have similar interests of surviving. Practice a healthy, active lifestyle in order to attain the body of a survivalist. Learn to use what you already have and don’t forget to educate others along the way. We can only rely on ourselves, and if we want to survive, we should do all we can.
Introversion isn’t simply the experience of feeling drained after having spent time around other people, it’s the experience of habitually suppressing your passion and drive. Your identity. It keeps you from doing what you want, when you want, as well as connecting with others in essential ways. In fact, I’d go as far as to say that connecting with others is essential to connecting with yourself, thus, making introversion a feedback loop. However, that loop can be broken and here are five extremely effective ways to break the cycle for good.
- Look People In The Eye
Fight the urge to avert your gaze and stare deeply into the soul of whomever you’re conversing with, especially those close to you. Let the awkwardness wash over you, observe their feelings and allow them to observe yours – whatever they may be. Don’t hide. What you will find in doing this is that people are a lot more like you than you’ve believed until now.
When you stifle your movements, you stifle your thoughts, emotions and all that makes you who you are. Dance because you want to. Understand that stifling yourself is a habit you’ve developed and need to break out of if you wish to be free.
- Express Your Opinions
You hold back your thoughts and opinions because you learned at a very young age that you couldn’t trust your perspective on life, however, it is illogical to believe that one can get through life with a complete ‘dud’ of a perspective. You’re constantly making the right decisions throughout your day to get to the end of it. Your ability to think, learn and adapt gives you the right to your opinion. Remember this and share your perspective with others. And let them share theirs with you… as you look them in the eye.
Don’t worry, you don’t need flawless abs to be more confident, but you do need endorphins to encourage self-improvement, and overcoming introversion may be the biggest improvement you’ll ever make. So develop a workout routine that will give you that daily endorphin release.
Whenever you have any downtime, quieten your mind by breathing deeply (in through your nose, out through your mouth). Through this, you’ll be able to bring yourself down to baseline and relieve yourself of stress. The reason that it’s important to remain as stress free as you possibly can throughout your day (other than the fact that stress is unhealthy) is because you’re trying to break certain habits and stress will keep you from doing that.
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